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The Start of a New Chapter

Hi guys, It’s been a long while since I’ve written in here. A lot has been happening in my life lately, and it’s time for this blog to get off its “professional” high horse and go down to the nitty-gritty of this being a personal blog.

So as you all may know, I’ve just recently separated from my 5 years of glorious reign of being one of the strongest long distance couple status. And no, this is not a post to gain sympathy or attention. Whoever will be seeing this will only be the readers that are curious to see if I post anything anymore, and they will be finding this Gem.

I have to say, I did not regret our decision to go our separate ways, at times I do miss the company and the connection that we once had. However, times have changed and people has changed over time, which is not to blamed on anyone or anything. I wished things would have been different, and our circumstances were different. But it was just not meant to be and I have come to terms with that.

This post is going to be about the different stages of a post break up summarised into the 6 R’s. This may not be a general idea but it’s something I went through and just want to share with the world about how I feel about it.

RELIEF

After a long push and pull of emotions, there is a sense of relief when a decision has been made. All the air cleared up to say that, things are not going work out. And yes, it may be selfish to say this, but freedom was felt. When the inevitable is coming towards the couple like a storm, sometimes, it is good for the release for both sides to concentrate on themselves for a change. People may comment that we are being weak and uncommitted, but if you know us personally and how we have been coping. You may understand. We had a good run, and the relief that we are choosing our individual future potential so that we don’t drag each other down.

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REALISATION

Then after the relief, here comes the realisation. The realisation that he’s not around anymore. There isn’t anyone that knows me for a quarter of my living life that I can rant to and talk to about our memories anymore. No one to look forward seeing. Just a realisation that I am now, single. What do I do. What am I suppose to do. There are people who want to be NOT single for a reason, and we let this go. A lot of things were realised at this stage, how he was there for me through my ups and downs, how our families have gotten used to us being together, how friends were waiting for the big good news from us. There were many expectations from everyone around us, how we gave long distance couples hope. It felt like I disappointed everyone around me. Then the feeling moved on to the next R..

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REGRET

Regret. Regret. Regret. I went nuts. I spent days in bed, just thinking of all the possibilities and regretted all the choices I made. It is the worse stage I went through. And will not wish upon anybody to go through this. Going through photos, notes, messages, just reading them and getting hurt by all of them. Hurt that we didn’t try hard enough. Hurt that we could have done more, I could have done more. Regretted all the things that my “strong heart” said, I just wanted to go back in time. What if things were different. What if I put more effort in. Would we have decided what we decided? Would we have been better people together than apart? Regrets. It is an overwhelming feeling, and all your friends around you may or may not realise that you are going through. It’s the best to share what you can share with them. But, honestly, they couldn’t help much for me. Because deep inside, this is my problem, only mine. And only I can solve it.

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RELAPSE

ah-HA. This stage. Very shameful stage. The begging to go back to normal stage. You all know this is a crazy ass stage. All your heart and mind wants to do is go back to a habitual life that you’ve been living for the past years. Just want to dangerously relapse back to him and go back to normal again. But that would mean all the decisions we made would be voided. HA. It is not as easy as that. When a decision like this has been done and all have been discussed, our weaknesses exposed. It is impossible to go back to normal, go back to how we once were. So no, that did not end well. Would not recommend this stage for any post break up couples. Because unless big changes are made on both sides, this will not end well. So yeah, not a very proud stage to have been through. But it happened. Glad that he did not give in to my relapse stage and nor I to his.

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RECONCILIATION

It’s a reconciliation of all the shit that happened just from all the stages before. It was a reconciliation on both sides. An understanding that we both have to move on. Understanding that we both did it for a reason, and we need to honour our reasons and decision. Don’t go back to the same mistakes. I will wish him all the best, and will always support him in all matters. Because we didn’t end things ugly, we ended things by putting everything into consideration. It was ugly through all these grieving stages. But we have to put all that behind us and go through life. Never will I regret everything we’ve been through. Never will I regret my decision again. Let’s just shake hands and wish each other well. Be Happy.

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REMEMBRANCE

I guess thats it for all the stages. The last one is when you bring yourself to start storing physical things away and memories to be locked away. And remembering that we had good times. All the fun trips we had, the experiences we went through together. I don’t regret one bit. and Never will. I will always have fond memories of you, and leave with no regrets of ever choosing you in the first place. I will be happy, and hope that you will be too.

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The end.

 

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Courier Shipping to Malaysia (Sarawak) from the UK Experience

As most students that goes abroad to study encounter this crazy burden of shipping 3 or 4 years of clothes, books, keepsakes and etc. Students would have loads of questions about: Which courier to use, how fast will it arrive, is it safe?

So, I have decided to create this blog post of my whole experience from boxing to un-boxing of my things and hopefully be able to help students everywhere. Just FYI, I am not sponsored to this specific service I’m using, so it would be an honest review and experience.

Additional information:

From: Newcastle upon Tyne, UK
To: Miri, Malaysia
Amount: 3 boxes, 18x18x30 inches
Service: Shipping2Malaysia

  1. Ordering Packaging boxes (03/07/16)

Using the shipping2malaysia website, It’s very straight forward to navigate. The tab “Free boxes” says it all. There are two sizes to choose from:

  1. Maxi: 18x18x30 inches (max weight 40kg)
  2. Midi: 18x18x20 inches (max weight 30kg)

Link to that page, click here

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After entering all your details, you would merely just get this confirmation page like this after you click submit!

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They will then send you an additional email confirming that you have requested for the free boxes, and a reminder that there will be a deposit to be made for these boxes. The unused boxes will then be reclaimed back when the delivery is taking place, with the deposit being deducted from your total cost.

    2.    Receiving a text a day before the delivery date of the boxes. (11/07/16)

So after 6 working days, I received a text from Shipping2Malaysia that the boxes are coming the next day with a 3 hour window. The reply to them required was either a yes or a no on my availability of collecting the box.

Now, the situation is, I was NOT available for collection on that day, so I replied “no” to the text message, thinking that they will probably arrange for another day for sending the boxes. HOWEVER, they did not send any reply after my “no” reply. Until I emailed them enquiring.

Apparently, if you miss the delivery of the boxes or unable to collect it at the time that was set, you are required to REBOOK your boxes, which will take another 7 working days to arrive in your designated location.

   3.    Reordered box (14/07/16)

My housemate reordered another set of box a day or two after me. It was to the same house, so we shall see if it would arrive on the same date. Unfortunately, they emailed my housemate to say that they had no more maxi boxes in stock, so he had to get the midi boxes or expect the boxes to arrive in another 2 weeks. Unable to wait, housemate had to take the midi boxes instead.

   4.   Receiving the text (21/07/16)

Received the text 6 working days after placing the order. The box arrival was due between 4pm to 7pm. Housemate received the same text!

   5.   Box arrival (22/07/16)

The box arrived at around 6pm outside my house. The attitude of the driver was unsatisfying, he was in a rush and was rude to me and my housemate. He was nice enough to let my housemate have the spare maxi box he had in his truck. Why I said he was rude is because when I miscalculated the number of boxes we had (the midi boxes were smaller in size so I didn’t see them), I wanted him to recheck the number of boxes for me. He reluctantly came to count them, and when he counted them correctly and me realising that a missed the midi box, he replied “Betul ba! Apa Salah???”. Not only that, when my housemate was just looking over the deposit receipt thoroughly before signing the consent form, the driver said “Cepatlah!”. That attitude and tone was unacceptable and unsatisfying because the fact that we are in a country with people that are really polite and full of mannerism. Well it irritated me anyway.

   6.   Box sizes

A comment that I’d like to give about the box is that it is very tall and deep.So if you were planning to bring anything horizontal back, it would have to fit in vertically. But I was quite satisfied with the boxes as I used vacuum storage bags for my clothes so it doesn’t take up much space.

7. Courier Box collection (01/08/16)

I needed my box to come before the 3rd of August, but “10 working day” service may be cutting  bit too close for me AND I was worried that they may come too early within that 10 working days and I won’t be ready with my boxes yet. So I chose the premier service, which came on the day that I selected.

8. Courier Box Arrival (26/10/16)

So it arrived 87 days to Miri, Sarawak, which is almost 3 months! I am quite impressed that it did arrive when it said it would. All the items in the box were intact and perfect, no breaks or leaks or smells. However, a comment would be that the tape that Shipping to Malaysia supplied is not very strong, so tip to do quite a few layers of the tape OR get a stronger one. The box was a bit battered from the trip, as you can see in the pictures. Because it gets slightly deformed, the tape would get loosen and people would have access to your boxes easily, so take note of that.

Anyway, I’ll end this blog here! If you have any questions, feel free to drop me a comment!

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Captain America: Civil War

Hi everybody!

I’m probably quite late off the “Team Cap” or “Team Iron Man” Band wagon, but I just hadn’t had the right company to watch it with. So of course, I seemed to have saved it to watch with my bestfriend, Joy! ❤

I wasn’t too “excited” for this movie to begin with, because I didn’t really like the idea of two great heroes fighting against each other instead of with each other. But after I started playing this new game app on my phone, Marvel Academy.

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That got me a little curious about what actually happened in the movie. So just to tell you guys, I have NOT watched the Winter Soldier, I know shame on me, calling myself a Marvel Fan. But I know that they blew up Shield and exposed Hydra, which was all that was really needed to know. OH, and Bucky Barnes being the Winter Soldier and all. To be fair, Ain’t a Captain America fan in the first place. So here goes my review of the movie! Be careful! Spoiler Alerts!

So as most of you already can get from the poster, It is the fight of Red against Blue, Aka. Iron Man against Capt America. While all of you suspect that there would be a great fight between these two teams, then you will not be disappointed, at all.

Let’s start from the beginning, it all really started when the Avengers once again saved the world yet, inevitably accidentally killing/sacrificing innocent civilians. This is done with the motto of “few lives for a million”. I guess that’s always avoided in most superhero movies. They come in, thrash the city, and leave the city being winners. The Avengers franchise had always zoned in on the fact that the civilians are unhappy with this idea of having casualties, which is basically a very humane thing to do.

Well this instigated the government to somewhat “take control” of the power of the Avengers to avoid any more of these casualties. (Psh, as if the government can control them when they are trying to save the world, but ignore that). This splits the Avengers team into Tony Stark’s conservative side, as he has seen too much to let this continue, and Steve Rogers’ do-gooder attitude, the if-not-now-then-when, if-not-us-then-who approach. So Steve refused to sign the international treaty.

At the SAME TIME, there is an evil villian that seemed to be framing Bucky Barnes, aka. Winter Soldier, who is also Capt America’s childhood buddy. Which made everything even MORE complicated and Steve even more sure to not comply with the law. Making him and his team, outlaws. I will try not to spoil too much on who are in who’s team, but all I can say is. The fight scene between these two teams were great. It’s like a dream fight scene of when you were kids reading the comics and thinking “Who will win, Captain America or Iron Man??” Except the casualty that was done on one specific character that you may get some feels from.

The end plot of this movie, I would have to admit that the villain won. The Avengers is not whole anymore, they broke. YES I AM SAD. Honestly I really didn’t like how I felt about the movie. I know it’s not all rainbows and the heroes winning all the time. But the whole idea of a strong team being so heavily split, hurts. So I can’t even tell you whose team I’m on.

I can be sure of one thing, I am Team Avengers.

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Rate: 6.5/10

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Happy Mother’s Day

So today is Mother’s day!

And I would like to dedicate this post to my lovely, awesome possum mum.

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Technically if it wasn’t for her, I wouldn’t be the strong, fun and loving person I am today. I wouldn’t say that I grew up having tough love, but it was balanced love. I wasn’t showered with hugs and kisses everytime I see my mum. BUt now that I don’t see her often I do get it more often. Normally I would get greated with “LYSSA, YOU AT HOME ALL DAY WHY DIDNT EVEN WASH THE DISHES”, or “LYSSA, NOW ONLY GET UP, HOW TO EAT BREAKFAST LIKE THAT, WAIT FOR LUNCH LA”. yes. It’s probably my fault for being a lazy bum in the house. For that, I would like to apologise for my laziness mum. I’ll be better.

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She is the ultimate glue that sticks us together. The major queen bee. One call of your voice and everyone of us come running after you. You can ask Andy and Adrian and even papa. That’s because she the most important person to us and we will always be there when she needs us.

My mum is very funny person. She will never threaten me to get good grades, or force me to study. She would always encourage me to do my best. Because of this, in my mind, I wanted to be the best child for her, so that she doesn’t have to worry. She doesn’t express her dreams and hopes for me to me, but I can always see it in her eyes that I have made her proud. No matter what I do. This is love, this is my mother’s love.

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Anyway, hope I made you proud and I will not stop trying to be your perfect daughter.

I love you mum. Forever and always xx

Happy Mothers Day!

Shining Beauty..Rich Looking Hand Bouquet of 10 pink oriental lilies @2500

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Edinburgh Trip Part 2

Hey guys! I know it’s been awhile since Edinburgh Part 1, but better late than never! (Plus, My friend Zern would be disappointed if I gave up writing this half way!)

So, despite having a late quiet drinks during the night before, Zern, Anirudh and Ryan all got up bright and early to get the buffet breakfast in the morning! Note that I didn’t say I woke up with them, because, well, I didn’t. I woke up half an hour later because as usual, 9am is not my thing. I went back to sleep after breakfast as well, while they went swimming. Slept until checkout time! Well, to be fair, It’s the best use of the hotel room, TO HAVE A GOOD SLEEP. Plus, I felt that we had until 9pm for our train that same day, and needing to check out at 1pm. Thinking about walking around for at least 7 hours to kill time sounded really tiring. So I’d have to say, the sleep was worth it.

Elephant House

So after checking out and all, we walked down the street towards the museum which just so happened passes the all famous ELEPHANT HOUSE. Apparently this was where JK Rowling got her inspiration for her famous series “Harry Potter”! Sadly, we didn’t get to go inside to have a cuppa coffee, because we all just had breakfast. But if I were with Joy, we would DEFINITELY GO IN later in the day. So had to resort to just taking pictures of it. It serves quite pricey hot beverages such as uniquely tastes teas and coffee. So if you’re a coffee or tea fan, it’s a recommended venue to visit and have a cuppa.

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The Elephant House

 

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We actually got attacted by the 7.99 pounds for a buffet Indian AND Thai lunch! It was totally worth it! You can see the quality of the food in Zern’s video below! So check it out! It was in the old town part of Edinburgh and up some stairs. It might not be the best place in town, but being students like us, and being on budget.. It was suffice for what we paid for! Ps. The ‘Thai’ part of the buffet is basically Thai curry. Yes, we were wondering how they would be able to have both Thai and Indian Buffet as one. So that’s problem solved.

National Museum of Scotland

This was the highlight of the day! We visited this museum because Zern has been here with her boyfriend and she thought it was a really lovely museum with interesting display and architectural design. The museum was separated into two main sections, history of the world and history of Scotland. It was both equally interesting! Sadly, we didn’t have the time to finish the museum and we missed some good sections! So if you are a museum and history buff, AND you’re in Edinburgh, it’s worth the visit for sure.

That’s the end of my blog about the places we visited in Edinburgh! Zern the Foodie has more insides of my trip so definitely check it out!

Til Next time!

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Click on the video below for more

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Day one of 4 Sillies invading Edinburgh

Another trip to add on to my travelog series!

So a few of us decided to do a day trip to Edinburgh courtesy of a deal that we found on www.secretescapes.com.So we all got the whole hotel deal from that website, for only 62 pounds per person!
Which included:

  1. A standard room for two for one night
  2. 20 pound dinner voucher
  3. Access to swimming pool and sauna
  4. 20 pound off a ONE HOUR spa treatment

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It is a good deal! Not only that, the Carlton Hotel is placed right between the old Edinburgh town and the new Edinburgh town, so the location was perfect for a day trip! Getting anywhere was just a walk down the street in either direction. You can find my review on the Carlton Hotel on Trip Advisor here. Just a quick tip about this hotel, It is currently under heavy construction in being converted to a Hilton Hotel.

Another cost for the trip was the train ride from Newcastle to Edinburgh which was only around 20 pounds per person! Totally worth it! Especially with some of us not having railcard, so we ended up just splitting the total cost of the group train tickets equally among us!

Edinburgh Castle

Highlight of the trip was to roam around the castle grounds of Edinburgh Castle. We didn’t manage to go into the castle because we thought it was a bit too pricey for each of us as most of us have already been inside. Sadly, I have never been into the castle but I believe it would have been brimming with history. However, we got some really lovely shots of the castle, grounds and the atmosphere, looking out at the city of Edinburgh.

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Edinburgh Old City

Edinburgh is basically made of two parts of the city and there were streets that represent the old part of the city. It’s just filled with historic buildings and statues. With the pavements not very much different from the olden times. I learned from my friend Ryan that Scotland is famous for their Haggis (savoury pudding containing sheep’s pluck (heart, liver and lungs); minced with onion, oatmeal, suet, spices, and salt, mixed with stock), Fried Mars Bar (Which I didn’t get to eat this time), Shortbread, Kilts and Tartan clothing. When you walk down the streets of Edinburgh, you will not fail to see loads of cashmere stores selling all those things.

Childhood Museum

I honestly didn’t think that we would actually enjoy our time in this museum. But I was stand corrected. We had LOADS of fun! More details of our trip of the childhood museum can be seen in Zern’s Vlog. Click here to see it! If you’re in Edinburgh and you enjoy going down memory lane of old toys and games or you just want to pass an hour or so then you should check it out.

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Pool, Jacuzzi and Sauna

After a nice long walk around Edinburgh, it’s nice to be able to relax in the hotel with great company and pools. We didn’t get any shots of this, being all in bathing suits and all! But I can vouch that we had a good time! However, remember when we all thought that we would get spa voucher worth 20 pounds? WELL, long story short, we THOUGHT we could get away with a free treatment that is worth 20 pounds. BUT we couldn’t because we didn’t  see the part about the “for a one hour declour treatment” so basically, we had to get a treatment worth more than 60++ pounds to get to use that voucher. wjbgaljebrgoahebrgjanebrhgbaelrjbgaeoirhbaehrbeaijrbg. sad. We still enjoyed our swim and the mini Jacuzzi that could only fit 5-6 people max. The sauna was relaxing too!

Dinner at the Carlton Hotel

For 20 pounds, you are able to get a really hearty meal here. I chose the chicken dish. which was their weekly special, and fish cake with pouched egg on top. The menu during the dinner had a really good range of dishes. Great meals for the deal we had! No regrets!

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My Starter: Clip from Zern The Foodie’s Vlog

Anyway! Just to end the Vlog of Day 1 in Edinburgh. This is a vlog of my good friend Zern about her take on the trip! You can see me trolling in the background at time! Enjoy!

Tune in next time!

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Brothers Grimsby Review

Happy Easter to all!

This movie might not be the best movie to be talking about on Easter Sunday, but it’s on my blog list! It’s the holidays now, so I supposedly have more time to blog and write. However, I am currently into a new game: Ark Survival, so currently quite occupied by it. I would probably be doing a review on the game as well! So look out for it if you’re interested. Right, let’s get back to the review!

In the UK, it’s widely known as “Grimsby” and in the US, it’s more known as “Brothers Grimsby”. The reason why I went to see this is in the cinema is because my boyfriend was is a fan of Borat that was played by Sacha Baron Cohen. His Borat shows are just hilarious so I was expecting nothing less than funny from this movie.

This comedy film played by Sasha and Mark Strong was about two very different brothers; Sebastian, a slick spy and Nobby, a football-loving hooligan. Both were separated as kids at an orphanage. It was a story of reunion, brother-ly love, and of course, the spy action stuff. I personally enjoyed the brothers with two different personalities and yet they choose brothers above all. Nobby’s character brought all the laughter, Sebastian brought the seriousness and reality. It was a great balance.

The movie as a whole, is definitely NOT to be watched with kids. I mentioned that about dead pool, but this movie is a whole different level. This movie is not crude with vile word, its full of vile references that only adults would understand. If you’re looking for a nice message to end the movie with, you will get a whole load of different things in the end. It was tirelessly full go gags, fat jokes, sexual jokes, and funnily enough, English jokes. You would sit in the cinemas or your room, going “ugh” or “hahahaha”. It really could go either way. My boyfriend and I’s different reaction while watching the movie was the prime examples.

This film wasn’t built on all comedy though, it had elements of action in it too! Try imagining Nobby being a spy. Enough is said. Though watching Borat doing action stunts with his goofy self, was very entertaining. Punchlines are never far from anything to do with genitals, or asses. The movie is just an entertaining hot mess and would be in my books for guilty pleasure. Oh, and not forgetting other namable casts in the movie: PENELOPE CRUZ and REBEL WILSON. Another mix of serious and funny actresses.

Watch the trailer to get a glimpse of what I am talking about:

Rate: 6/10

Signing out!