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Rant

This week, my post will be dedicated to purely ranting.

I’ve been in a better place recently, reconnecting with my inner self and focusing on other things  that would not make me upset. I guess the best way for me to move on is really to get distracted. Distracted with things I can do with my life without just wallowing in bed thinking of what could have been. I know readers may feel really petty that after so long, I am still sore and I’m still upset. Heck, of course I am. The guy is moving on, and so am I! Just not social media about it, that’s all. So maybe life is just playing a cruel trick on me. I hate social media now. Dislike how addicted I am to being able to know where everyone is and what they are doing, at what time. Able to be in their shoes and assuming what they are feeling and being affected by my own imagination of how they’re feeling. It’s intoxicating and tiring. I have a knack of being OBSESSED at what everyone is doing. And it in turn hurts me when I find out things I don’t want to. 

Going to quote a good friend of mine:

Alyssa, you’ve got to embrace the Feeling of NOT feeling FOMO, give some time to yourself and live YOUR life.

So yeah, I will try my best. And REALLY get OFF social media to people watch, I DO NOT need that knowledge in my life. Breathe. 

Peace out. 🙆🏻


Ps. I’m absolutely fine guys! 😘 Ping me for proof! 🙆🏻

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Travel to Gua Niah!

So the story of the week will be about my trip to Niah! Just gonna give a heads up that the pictures taken weren’t of the besssst quality, just want to give my readers a sense of the highlight of my week.

So the reason behind going to Niah was because… my friends from KL and Brunei came to visit! 🙆🏻 They are my crazy board game freak gang, and they are the most entertaining group of friends I have (sorry everyone else, hehe). But basically had to bring them to Miri’s iconic cave: Gua Niah. 

Travel details:

  • By car from Miri city center; around 1.5 to 2 hours. Depending on the traffic (big lorries on a one lane roads, which is most of the time)
  • Entrance fee: RM10 for locals (if locals bringing foreigners, it is also RM10 each). RM20 for foreigners.
  • RM 1 for a boat ride across a small river to the other side. Not forgetting another RM1 to cross back as well at the end!
  • Drinks and souvenirs are sold mid trail. (Quite pricey, RM3 per can drink)
  • Some areas require torches (Phone flash would be sufficient, if you’re just into casual caving).

Hmm, those are really the only 5 points about what to look out for prior to going. But other than that, I shall story tell my experience. So basically, the road to Niah, was a very easy one. Just one STRAIGHT road all the way to the Niah area, then there will be signs to Niah National Park on the way. May be hard to see, so trust google maps! Just in case you miss any roads. The road itself is slightly bumpy, so brace your car. And you will be so annoyed with the lorries slowly driving on these roads, and needing to cut them. So PLEASE BE CAREFUL WHEN CUTTING! 

Niah’s cave trail is very VERY easy for all ages. We arrived at 10.15am and left Niah at about 1.30pm. But this is just exploring only Traders Cave. If you were to go further into Painting Caves, then you can add another 1 hour to the timing. If you’ve never been to a cave before, Niah would be a good start to get a small feel at how a cave is like 🙂 but overall it was a chilled walk in a cave. 

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Before the walk photo!

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After the Walk Photo!

It was an overall fun experience! Hope these boys enjoyed themselves! Because I did! The nature and the conversations we had during the walk (not to mention exercised too!) was a fun activity to do in boring little Miri. Be one with nature.

After the walk, we went to eat my favourite dish after Niah-ing. TUTU FISH or IKAN BERTUTU! Bekenu town has a restaurant called “Sing Chiong Restaurant” that rares tutu fishes. Basically they are freshwater fish that has meat that is soft like tofu. It is really a MUST eat if you are done with Niah, and finding food on the way back.

Type this address on google to find it: “Sing Chiong Restaurant, Kampung Keluru Jaya, 98150 Bekenu, Sarawak, Malaysia”

It was an amazing lunch!

Shall end the blog here now guys! Hope you enjoyed reading it. More next week!

Special shoutout to Teng: for my early birthday present! Love it! (Not the munchkin)

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The Best Night

Last night, was a truly epic night! The cross between the old and the new merged together like smooth peanut butter! What I’m meaning is, my high school friends partying hard with my colleagues on one single table! It was a truly amazing night to have both closest friends from two groups coming together so well. There were so many stories to tell and experiences to share. It was just amazing how alcohol can loosen people up and just be comfortable with each other. As well as hike up our emotions. Like they say the most natural personality will come out when one is drunk/tipsy. And last night’s hype seemed to be such a loving and caring group that knows everyone’s struggle but still are there for them. Don’t know why that’s what I got out of a drunken night out, but it just seemed more than just a normal outing last night. 


To all my friends that are going through hard times and or just having a bad or stressful day. Remember that all of us are here for you, no matter what. Through thick and thin. 


It has been an amazing, heart warming long weekend. 

Cheers to these ladies that have grown to be beautiful and strong women and wish for them the bessssst future. We don’t know when we can meet up like this again. But we will! One day!


Here I shall end my weekly. Peace out ♥️

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Happy Merdeka!

Happy MERDEKA!


Hi guys!

Just want to open up the floor to anonymous comments! I’m racking up quite a lot of views on my U.K. Visa post! Glad that some of you are finding it useful (even til now). So I’m open to comments and feedbacks, whether it be new procedures or something majorly wrong. Feel free to tell me here on the link below:

https://alyyphants.sarahah.com/

You will be totally anonymous! So don’t be afraid to pop me a message! 🙆🏻🎶

Will try to post here every week from now. Getting too stagnant. So starting Thursday (31/08), I’ll be posting stuff up (useful and non useful) just to keep all of you entertained!

Peace out guys!

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The Start of a New Chapter

Hi guys, It’s been a long while since I’ve written in here. A lot has been happening in my life lately, and it’s time for this blog to get off its “professional” high horse and go down to the nitty-gritty of this being a personal blog.

So as you all may know, I’ve just recently separated from my 5 years of glorious reign of being one of the strongest long distance couple status. And no, this is not a post to gain sympathy or attention. Whoever will be seeing this will only be the readers that are curious to see if I post anything anymore, and they will be finding this Gem.

I have to say, I did not regret our decision to go our separate ways, at times I do miss the company and the connection that we once had. However, times have changed and people has changed over time, which is not to blamed on anyone or anything. I wished things would have been different, and our circumstances were different. But it was just not meant to be and I have come to terms with that.

This post is going to be about the different stages of a post break up summarised into the 6 R’s. This may not be a general idea but it’s something I went through and just want to share with the world about how I feel about it.

RELIEF

After a long push and pull of emotions, there is a sense of relief when a decision has been made. All the air cleared up to say that, things are not going work out. And yes, it may be selfish to say this, but freedom was felt. When the inevitable is coming towards the couple like a storm, sometimes, it is good for the release for both sides to concentrate on themselves for a change. People may comment that we are being weak and uncommitted, but if you know us personally and how we have been coping. You may understand. We had a good run, and the relief that we are choosing our individual future potential so that we don’t drag each other down.

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REALISATION

Then after the relief, here comes the realisation. The realisation that he’s not around anymore. There isn’t anyone that knows me for a quarter of my living life that I can rant to and talk to about our memories anymore. No one to look forward seeing. Just a realisation that I am now, single. What do I do. What am I suppose to do. There are people who want to be NOT single for a reason, and we let this go. A lot of things were realised at this stage, how he was there for me through my ups and downs, how our families have gotten used to us being together, how friends were waiting for the big good news from us. There were many expectations from everyone around us, how we gave long distance couples hope. It felt like I disappointed everyone around me. Then the feeling moved on to the next R..

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REGRET

Regret. Regret. Regret. I went nuts. I spent days in bed, just thinking of all the possibilities and regretted all the choices I made. It is the worse stage I went through. And will not wish upon anybody to go through this. Going through photos, notes, messages, just reading them and getting hurt by all of them. Hurt that we didn’t try hard enough. Hurt that we could have done more, I could have done more. Regretted all the things that my “strong heart” said, I just wanted to go back in time. What if things were different. What if I put more effort in. Would we have decided what we decided? Would we have been better people together than apart? Regrets. It is an overwhelming feeling, and all your friends around you may or may not realise that you are going through. It’s the best to share what you can share with them. But, honestly, they couldn’t help much for me. Because deep inside, this is my problem, only mine. And only I can solve it.

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RELAPSE

ah-HA. This stage. Very shameful stage. The begging to go back to normal stage. You all know this is a crazy ass stage. All your heart and mind wants to do is go back to a habitual life that you’ve been living for the past years. Just want to dangerously relapse back to him and go back to normal again. But that would mean all the decisions we made would be voided. HA. It is not as easy as that. When a decision like this has been done and all have been discussed, our weaknesses exposed. It is impossible to go back to normal, go back to how we once were. So no, that did not end well. Would not recommend this stage for any post break up couples. Because unless big changes are made on both sides, this will not end well. So yeah, not a very proud stage to have been through. But it happened. Glad that he did not give in to my relapse stage and nor I to his.

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RECONCILIATION

It’s a reconciliation of all the shit that happened just from all the stages before. It was a reconciliation on both sides. An understanding that we both have to move on. Understanding that we both did it for a reason, and we need to honour our reasons and decision. Don’t go back to the same mistakes. I will wish him all the best, and will always support him in all matters. Because we didn’t end things ugly, we ended things by putting everything into consideration. It was ugly through all these grieving stages. But we have to put all that behind us and go through life. Never will I regret everything we’ve been through. Never will I regret my decision again. Let’s just shake hands and wish each other well. Be Happy.

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REMEMBRANCE

I guess thats it for all the stages. The last one is when you bring yourself to start storing physical things away and memories to be locked away. And remembering that we had good times. All the fun trips we had, the experiences we went through together. I don’t regret one bit. and Never will. I will always have fond memories of you, and leave with no regrets of ever choosing you in the first place. I will be happy, and hope that you will be too.

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The end.

 

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Courier Shipping to Malaysia (Sarawak) from the UK Experience

As most students that goes abroad to study encounter this crazy burden of shipping 3 or 4 years of clothes, books, keepsakes and etc. Students would have loads of questions about: Which courier to use, how fast will it arrive, is it safe?

So, I have decided to create this blog post of my whole experience from boxing to un-boxing of my things and hopefully be able to help students everywhere. Just FYI, I am not sponsored to this specific service I’m using, so it would be an honest review and experience.

Additional information:

From: Newcastle upon Tyne, UK
To: Miri, Malaysia
Amount: 3 boxes, 18x18x30 inches
Service: Shipping2Malaysia

  1. Ordering Packaging boxes (03/07/16)

Using the shipping2malaysia website, It’s very straight forward to navigate. The tab “Free boxes” says it all. There are two sizes to choose from:

  1. Maxi: 18x18x30 inches (max weight 40kg)
  2. Midi: 18x18x20 inches (max weight 30kg)

Link to that page, click here

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After entering all your details, you would merely just get this confirmation page like this after you click submit!

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They will then send you an additional email confirming that you have requested for the free boxes, and a reminder that there will be a deposit to be made for these boxes. The unused boxes will then be reclaimed back when the delivery is taking place, with the deposit being deducted from your total cost.

    2.    Receiving a text a day before the delivery date of the boxes. (11/07/16)

So after 6 working days, I received a text from Shipping2Malaysia that the boxes are coming the next day with a 3 hour window. The reply to them required was either a yes or a no on my availability of collecting the box.

Now, the situation is, I was NOT available for collection on that day, so I replied “no” to the text message, thinking that they will probably arrange for another day for sending the boxes. HOWEVER, they did not send any reply after my “no” reply. Until I emailed them enquiring.

Apparently, if you miss the delivery of the boxes or unable to collect it at the time that was set, you are required to REBOOK your boxes, which will take another 7 working days to arrive in your designated location.

   3.    Reordered box (14/07/16)

My housemate reordered another set of box a day or two after me. It was to the same house, so we shall see if it would arrive on the same date. Unfortunately, they emailed my housemate to say that they had no more maxi boxes in stock, so he had to get the midi boxes or expect the boxes to arrive in another 2 weeks. Unable to wait, housemate had to take the midi boxes instead.

   4.   Receiving the text (21/07/16)

Received the text 6 working days after placing the order. The box arrival was due between 4pm to 7pm. Housemate received the same text!

   5.   Box arrival (22/07/16)

The box arrived at around 6pm outside my house. The attitude of the driver was unsatisfying, he was in a rush and was rude to me and my housemate. He was nice enough to let my housemate have the spare maxi box he had in his truck. Why I said he was rude is because when I miscalculated the number of boxes we had (the midi boxes were smaller in size so I didn’t see them), I wanted him to recheck the number of boxes for me. He reluctantly came to count them, and when he counted them correctly and me realising that a missed the midi box, he replied “Betul ba! Apa Salah???”. Not only that, when my housemate was just looking over the deposit receipt thoroughly before signing the consent form, the driver said “Cepatlah!”. That attitude and tone was unacceptable and unsatisfying because the fact that we are in a country with people that are really polite and full of mannerism. Well it irritated me anyway.

   6.   Box sizes

A comment that I’d like to give about the box is that it is very tall and deep.So if you were planning to bring anything horizontal back, it would have to fit in vertically. But I was quite satisfied with the boxes as I used vacuum storage bags for my clothes so it doesn’t take up much space.

7. Courier Box collection (01/08/16)

I needed my box to come before the 3rd of August, but “10 working day” service may be cutting  bit too close for me AND I was worried that they may come too early within that 10 working days and I won’t be ready with my boxes yet. So I chose the premier service, which came on the day that I selected.

8. Courier Box Arrival (26/10/16)

So it arrived 87 days to Miri, Sarawak, which is almost 3 months! I am quite impressed that it did arrive when it said it would. All the items in the box were intact and perfect, no breaks or leaks or smells. However, a comment would be that the tape that Shipping to Malaysia supplied is not very strong, so tip to do quite a few layers of the tape OR get a stronger one. The box was a bit battered from the trip, as you can see in the pictures. Because it gets slightly deformed, the tape would get loosen and people would have access to your boxes easily, so take note of that.

Anyway, I’ll end this blog here! If you have any questions, feel free to drop me a comment!

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Happy Mother’s Day

So today is Mother’s day!

And I would like to dedicate this post to my lovely, awesome possum mum.

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Technically if it wasn’t for her, I wouldn’t be the strong, fun and loving person I am today. I wouldn’t say that I grew up having tough love, but it was balanced love. I wasn’t showered with hugs and kisses everytime I see my mum. BUt now that I don’t see her often I do get it more often. Normally I would get greated with “LYSSA, YOU AT HOME ALL DAY WHY DIDNT EVEN WASH THE DISHES”, or “LYSSA, NOW ONLY GET UP, HOW TO EAT BREAKFAST LIKE THAT, WAIT FOR LUNCH LA”. yes. It’s probably my fault for being a lazy bum in the house. For that, I would like to apologise for my laziness mum. I’ll be better.

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She is the ultimate glue that sticks us together. The major queen bee. One call of your voice and everyone of us come running after you. You can ask Andy and Adrian and even papa. That’s because she the most important person to us and we will always be there when she needs us.

My mum is very funny person. She will never threaten me to get good grades, or force me to study. She would always encourage me to do my best. Because of this, in my mind, I wanted to be the best child for her, so that she doesn’t have to worry. She doesn’t express her dreams and hopes for me to me, but I can always see it in her eyes that I have made her proud. No matter what I do. This is love, this is my mother’s love.

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Anyway, hope I made you proud and I will not stop trying to be your perfect daughter.

I love you mum. Forever and always xx

Happy Mothers Day!

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